Human individuation is the starting point for developing empathy.
Your life is really all about you. But not in the way you've probably been led to believe. You are the centre of the universe from your unique and individual perspective and no matter where you go, how you live, or who you are, this fact remains a constant. You are not marginalized in any way and your perspective and how you develop it is an important step in the process of human evolution.
But the problem is there's no way you can live without getting involved with other people, society and culture. Outside of the few people you will share deep and meaningful connections in your life with, most other people will be your biggest challenge and obstacles to you being you. This is because modern culture works against almost everybody but most people become enslaved by it, as you can see if you spend any amount of time on any social media platform. Thanks to individualism many people you come across will be on some kind of power trip and they will be trying to define you, label you, tell you what to think or believe, or generally trying to get one over you.
Language and culture can also become traps if you're not careful but they can also be used to liberate you. The general tendency of culture and language is to dis-empower you, diminish your value and uniqueness and try to make you feel as dispensible and generic as everyone else. Then when many people end up feeling small in the system, and isolated - because society based on individualism is stratified and for most people often an experience which involves isolation and or alienation - when you're looking for mentorship or guidance, or support, you turn to an organization - a college or university, a corporation, a political party, a church, a social movement, and this is when you end up not with any guidance or mentorship, but just an ideology or belief system.
You have to become your own highest authority
It's important to understand that, when we tell you that your life is all about you, we are referring specifically to your unique and individual perspective on life and it's the constant development of your unique and individual perspective which gives you your authenticity and your style and which gets you the connections to other people. Your perspective is the only real thing which truly belongs to you in life, nobody else has it, it's what makes you stand out, unique and special, and just for this very reason alone you need to appoint yourself your own highest authority and final arbiter over what becomes part of your perspective and what doesn't. If you can achieve this then you can become immune to a lot of the cultural bullshit out there.
But there are other things you need to watch out for and pay attention to. We highlight these below.
Any ideology has limited value when you're young, like in your teens and trying to figure out how things work. But generally any ideology if you're older is nothing but either a scam or a power trip.
This includes a lot of religion. Not all religions are bad and not all churches are bad, But good religion teaches you the common core principles of the religious traditions without trying to sell you the ideology or the divisionism.
However it's important to understand that ideology kills. Nazis. Stalinists. Heaven's Gate. This is not a childish game. You're selling out your perspective for someone else's belief and betraying yourself. You're repeating the same thought processes over and over and over again and ruining your perception because you're not experiencing or seeing the world as it is in reality, but through the frame of an ideology. Our advice is if you're coming across ideologues keep one hand over your wallet and the other hand over your bumhole.
A time trap is a distraction which shifts your focus of attention away from the present to either the past or future. There';s an army of therapists, counsellors and life coaches all out to make money out of you by getting you to focus on your past and - even worse - hypnotists who will make money from messing up your headspace and perspective. Then you have the other distractions which shift your attention to the future, and again away from the present moment where your focus needs to be.
Hacks are another thing you need to watch out for and avoid. Hacks try to convince you that there's an easy way to do something, or there's a short cut. Many of these hacks have a lot to do with personal development or self-improvement. Again hacks are another aspect of culture and social engineering designed to dis-empower you, dumb you down, and diminish you.
Trauma and emotional baggage are an inevitable part of life which cause attachments and create barriers which impede you in your journey through life. They lie on your path for a reason and that reason is to motivate you to develop your perspective and change your perception of consciousness. Such issues are still life experience and your attitude to such issues determines how you get to work through such issues and whether or not you resolve them.
You get past your issues by getting out into the community and sharing your insight and perspective on such issues with others. For this reason we have created the role of reverse participant in our community if you get stuck in life or get bogged down with too many attachments. Only you can get past your issues in your own way and doing so requires not much more than community participation and social interaction. If you need material or financial support you can create your own appeals and gather resources. Sustainable support for your issues from others is a fundamental part of being in our community. You will always find your own way past your own issues in your own time, but the quickest, most efficient way forward isn't a hack, but community participation.
Like religion and politics there's a lot of bad mysticism out there which is either tied to self-improvement or just simply ineffective. Sure meditation and smoking weed can help to expand your mind and develop imagination but so too can reading a book, art, creative activities, face to face social interaction, volunteering, and getting to know strangers. You have to rely on your felt sense of immediate experience to figure out what works best for you and be your own judge. This is all part of you walking your own path through life and developing your perception of consciousness in your own way.
Qultura and social media don't have an easy relationship given the fact that we're primarily concerned with soul building and connecting people, and social media is concerned with promoting egotism, creating social conflict and messing up your headspace. Social media is nowadays all about developing egotism and forcing ideology down your throat, which is why politicians love it. The key to using our social media spaces is to make use of them to create deeper connections. Note that as of 2020 we plan to migrate from Facebook and start using MeWe as our primary social media platform.