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What is the difference between a raging alcoholic and a typical CEO of a large multinational corporation?

Fundamentally no difference whatsoever. Both are feeding an addiction to something which consumes their thinking and attention every single minute of their waking hours. Both are basing their desire for happiness and meaning on something other than them. Both are obsessed with getting the object of their addiction, which is either alcohol or rising corporate profits. Both are obsessed with having control over others so they have unrestricted access twenty four seven to the object of their addiction and will seek that access by any means possible, even if it means hurting and abusing other people.

Not that we should judge, for usually in both cases there was a traumatic personal experience in their lives which they couldn't quite get past, simply because they lacked the consciousness to be able to do so.

This created a sensation of feeling 'empty inside', of feeling worthless, like nothing, feeling soulless, struggling with an inner conflict, self-confidence, a lack of self-worth, and it's only through the sense of achievement which comes from either obtaining alcohol to get drunk or being perceived as more successful as an individual simply because you're worth more in financial terms than anyone else.

In both cases they're just like you and trying to live the only way they know how.

All addiction is abuse

All abuse, whatever form it takes, and no matter whether the abuse is directed towards someone else or turned inwards towards oneself is based on fear motivation and the three accompanying issues of a desire for control, denial and a profound lack of consciousness.

Love is a conscious experience and a deep and profound emotional and psychological bond between two people, be it between parent and child or between two partners in a romantic, loving, sexual relationship. An actual loving relationship is two people who are able to connect on the exact same plane of consciousness, and that connection is usually life long and permanent until they become separated by death.

Death, life and love are just three aspects of the same conscious experience.

However if fear exists between two people, irrespective of whether it is between parent and child or between two partners, then the relationship is far more likely to be an abusive relationship than an actual loving relationship.

Preta

The title 'Ghostly Hunger' comes from preta, which is one of six realms of existence of samara or the Buddhist 'Wheel of Life'. 'Preta' is the realm of existence between 'narakha', the realm of existence of the truly miserable and suffering which Buddhists define as hell, and 'manusya', the human realm of existence. 'Preta' is the realm of 'becoming' and an escape from hell, and it is the realm of the 'hungry ghosts' who have large stomachs and small mouths, and who can never be completely satisfied, but who are always frustrated and feeling an empty void within them.

Given the lack of understanding in wider society when it comes to both addiction and abuse, this is probably going to be a somewhat difficult book for some people to read. It's also a very difficult book for Stella Baker, who underwent training in Therevada Buddhism under a Bangladeshi Therevadin master in London for over two years from the age of 17, to write. The book is based on her direct personal experience of emotional, physical and sexual abuse she went through as a child which motivated her to study Buddhism, which she had been studying for 35 years, out of which she developed Qultura methodology. She also draws from her personal experiences when writing about addiction, as she has overcome various addictions to drugs, alcohol, food and work at different periods of her life.

Therefore this isn't a book written by a psychologist or expert, but by someone who has actually gone through experiences of both abuse and addiction, who understands the cycles involved, and who has evolved past these issues to create a system for developing cohsciousness through which other people can liberate themselves from the loneliness and misery, and the trauma and suffering, that is familiar to many people who themselves have gone through experiences of abuse and addiction in their lives.

This is a book written from the perspective of a mystic and shaman intended to share insight and inspiration towards healing, recovery and growth...

...so that even some of the worst abusers can become human again.